Friday, 14 March 2014

Being an old fashioned mama in a modern world

Now my son is 2 and a half, I have to admit it - I'm not a very modern, trendy parent. At all. I'm the old fashioned kind, and I don't mind that one bit. I dislike 'modern parenting' ideals very much, and I sometimes feel like I am the only one, which is why I love reading my favourite blogs. My favourites are by mothers who have big families, who love spending time with their little ones, who relish being just a mother. Women who don't feel they have to spend a fortune on their home or their children to be satisfied (I certainly have nowhere near a fortune, but even if I did, I like to think that my son wouldn't have every gadget under the sun) or jet off to exotic places all the time or have everything

My son doesn't have any fancy gadgets. He has toys of course, and he loves playing with his toy cars and his wooden train set. He loves playing football with his daddy, reading stories and singing songs. He loves getting out in the garden to play with his boat, his pull-a-long trailer and Cozy Coupe. He doesn't have a tablet (not even a toddler one!) and I plan to steer him away from these for as long as possible because kids have to grow up too fast anyway, without toddler knowing how to operate an iPad better than an adult. He has never been left with anyone other than his Nana, and no more than a few hours. We've never left him overnight and we have never been away on a holiday without him. I do not want a high-flying profession. I want to home, to be present. To be with my son and to remember his soft skin and his toddler antics and his endearing questions and comments. Maybe I am old-fashioned, but I believe in enjoying your children and simply being a mother, and being ok with that. There is nothing to be ashamed of, you are not 'just a mother'. So much more! They are little for such a small amount of time. I always think about when I am old, and what I will regret the most. It certainly won't be not having fancy things. It would be not enjoying this precious boy as much as I could have.

We live a very simple life, and I hope I get to be a stay at home mother for as long as possible. We only have one child at the moment, but we do hope for more in the future (I have always wanted a large family of 5 or 6 but shhhh don't tell Paul!) and I would love nothing more than a bustling home full of little children. We haven't been on holiday for a long time, our home is small and we spend frugally. But we have loads of love. Loads and loads of it. 

Of course, this is not a post against mothers who work, or who have gadgets and pizmos for their children and who have exotic holidays in the sun. This is just me, expressing what I want out of this little life of mine. What I desire most for my little family. What matters to me the most is the happiness of my little boy. 

1 comment:

  1. Same over here :) I dislike seeing littles using iPads etc. I will be the first to admit sometimes I give mine to Isabelle to distract her for a moment, but all she gets to do is press the button and watch it light up hehe! Lovely post xx